Good article, Anthony.
I would take it a little further. I made it through about 55 years by “resisting” and “keeping a positive attitude”. Then, a dozen years ago, I unexpectedly and embarrassingly wrapped myself around a psychological pole and had a complete breakdown.
Understanding and eventually forgiving, to whatever degree possible, yourself and those that that were involved is the hard part. Parents and those close to us are our icons and we expect that they are to some degree “perfect”. But they are no better or worse than any other human beings. Our problems are often generational and sometimes genetic.
Using our “will” to be better is only workable if we are willing to delve deep into the causes and understand the problems. This is a continuing process.
That’s how it all appears to me at this point. Hopefully, it helps.